Dear Man
Dale Miller does not wear the pants in his relationships.
Or anywhere.
While cross-dressers are often crazily decked to the nines, Dale Miller prefers his minis and heels with conservative blazers and ties. Very Casual Corner. This computer-systems programmer at the University of Arkansas at Little Rock had even been wearing his lady things around campus for about four months but stopped voluntarily when people freaked. If you like his answers to your man probs, reach straight and single Dale, 43, through www.skirtman.org.
Q:
Why do some men miss the seat when they take a number one?
— Una, Illinois
A: It can be a bit difficult at times, but I think it’s often that they simply don’t care.
Q:
I’m 24 and I’m after this man who’s 35. I have no problem with this, but do you think he’d think it was skeevy to date me?
— Shakira, Michigan
A:
Most men would be flattered that a younger woman found them attractive. But be wary of the “trophy girlfriend” syndrome. Make sure that he likes you not just because you are young and attentive.
Q:
If, at the end of a first date, a guy gives you a long hug and then a kiss on the cheek, is he pulling a “thanks but no thanks” or a “I’m trying to impress you by keeping it in my pants?”
— Lesley, Maine
A:
I would put my money on the latter. After all, that’s the way we’ve been told that we are supposed to behave.
Q:
I really don’t understand why more men say “peace” at the end of conversations than women. Please explain.
— Ashley, Ohio
A:
I’m not sure I understand why anyone uses it, so I’m afraid I’m not much help.
Q:
My male friend keeps succumbing to these women who use him for casual sex. He doesn’t like having all these flings, but has a problem saying no. How would you advise him?
— Claudia, Iowa
A:
Send some of the women my way? Seriously, there’s nothing particularly wrong with casual sex (if proper precautions are taken), but it’s no substitute for a real relationship. His solution is going to require him to find someone who is interested in him for more than just sex.
Q:
In this era of general paranoia, what suggestions (other than bars) would you have for a man as to how and where to meet women?
A:
Cocktail parties. Because everyone there is preapproved by at least one person you know. Kinda weeds out the freaks.
— Katy, Texas